Children of Transgendered Parents

As time is drawing near for Chance to enter the public school system those around me seem to have a growing concern for his well being. People who know of our alternative family and our situation are asking if we are nervous and if we think it is fair for Chance to be subjected to the harassment he might likely face. I realize there is a curiosity from people so I've learned not to take offense. The thing is that I guess some don't think that amidst all of our "selfish" living we have considered our children. Um, Duh! They are after all OUR children whom we love with all our hearts. OF COURSE we are concerned and OF COURSE we have considered this.

The concept that I wish even my own family would understand is this: The more that our son witnesses loved ones treating our family with respect and acceptance the more confidence he will be armed with to battle the bullies of this world. If all those around us who are so concerned about our children would focus their energy on supporting us and encouraging our children to have pride rather than on feeding the negative energy than they would in fact have a greater impact on helping our innocent children. The more support we have the higher and stronger our fortress stands to protect them. No, it's not fair that our children will surely have to pay in one way or another from the choices we've made. But I would rather have our children grow up in a safe, open, loving home where the parents are happy with themselves and in love than a house where everyone is stuck in a life where they are not free. I wonder if there would be less abuse in the world if people would not settle in a life because it was the "right" thing to do?
My hope for Chance and Serenity is that by example if we continue to live with strength, dignity and courage than this will be just enough to help them over come the issues they will face. In fact I'm hoping that perhaps our kids will have a heads up on the rest of this generation by gaining these tools you must acquire to get along in this life. Perhaps they will learn earlier on that you don't have to concede to be someone else for the sake of popularity. I wish I had learned sooner not to live my life by the dictation of pleasing others .
Of course I don't want them to suffer pain caused by the cruelty of the world. I wish I could always shelter them. All we can do is take it day by day and conquer each battle as it approaches. We will stand side by side with them no matter what. It is hard to explain to a 5 year old the complications of socialization. But we do the best we can. We can arm them with knowledge, morals, manners and keep the lines of communication as open as possible. The truth is that even if you do it all exactly right you never know what your children will turn out like. If all else fails we teach them to laugh. To take everything with a grain of salt and my kids are well equipped with wit. Plus Chance is like the tallest 5 year old I know so he'll just squash the other kids like bugs if they get in his way.